Books carry different meaning for different people. While you may love romantic novels, another person may love action novels more. It’s therefore fair enough to say that we cannot ignore the subjective nature of our reading choices.

I’ve covered reading addiction in this article; I bring this up because the purpose of this article is a bit similar in nature to the reading addiction article.

In this article I’ll cover emotional attachment to books so we can learn more about this and preferably explore it in our own reading endeavors.

With that said, let’s get right into this article.

So, Can you be emotionally attached to a book?

You can be emotionally attached to books; some books can leave a lasting impression on you and this can easily make you emotionally attached to the book. The way a book may have or may make you feel can sometimes make it harder for you to let it go and emotionally separate yourself from it.

People emotionally attached to books may find themselves a bit obsessive and will often times read a book more than once to feel what they felt when they read it the first time.

Why you may become emotion about a book

Books can be a great distraction even more so when we completely fall in love with them. Some people tend to identify with characters too easily because of their unique way of looking at things and their life.

You shouldn’t worry too much about obsessing about books because the emotional attachment eventually fades away even if it may not feel that way in the heat of the moment after finishing a book you really like.

In other instances becoming emotionally attached to a book is a result of good writing. In essence good writing can paint the perfect picture in the readers mind; this often times can leave such a lasting impression on them. Readers may find it hard to read something else because of their great appreciation of the story telling combined with great writing.

So, you shouldn’t really feel bad about a book making you emotional because sometimes the book is just that good.

Emotional attachment to book characters

Attachment to book characters is something very common and very normal. By our nature as human beings it is very easy to relate with characters that represent a part of us that may not so visible to others.

Fiction novelists study human nature and can write in a very interesting way. They can rattle up and command emotion from the reader making it easy for them to get attached to a character or characters in a book.

Unless the obsessiveness begins to interfere with your everyday life, identifying and emotionally attaching yourself to book characters is not really a bad thing and to some extent represents part of the experience that the author intended.

Mind you, these people write these books to hook you in and leave a lasting impression so you may become a fan and keep on buying their work.

Book hangovers (How long do they last?)

Book hangovers can last anywhere from a week to a month depending on the person. Some people are naturally more obsessive than others while others can easily move on from a book.

It also depends on impact and the impression that the book makes on the reader because people are different and so are their experiences.

For example, a person that may have suffered from depression in the past may find a book about a person that got out of depression and make their way to living normally more interesting than a person that has ever experienced that.

Furthermore, the nature of the writing of the author can also influence how long a book hangover can last for the average individual.

How to get over book obsession

Here are some things you can do to get over books that you become emotionally attached to. Of course there are many other ways to get over a book that may have made a huge impact on your life but I’ve found that the things I’ve discussed below are the best ways to get over book obsession.

Cold turkey

Stopping any sort of addition or obsession cold turkey is not the easiest thing to do. But it can be effective and beneficial to you.

Consider putting the book away and not reading it for at least a couple of months. This can help you break the bond that you may have made with the book. You can consider watching a TV show or movie in place of reading the book.

It’s never easy to let go of a good book but sometimes you just need to put it away right after finishing it rather than revisiting it after you’ve finished it already.

Give the book away

You can also give the book away or donate it to charity or you can sell it to a book store. Most book store owners will welcome any addition to their existing collection of books. If you’re not looking to part with the book then you could consider borrowing it out to a friend after explaining to them that you’re trying to counteract your obsession to the book.

Any friend will want to help you get over a book and will gladly accept the book even if they don’t read much.


You can also consider journaling how you feel about the book. There’s really no particular way to journal because we are different and like I’ve mentioned a few times so are our experiences. In this case you can consider being as honest as possible about the feelings and emotions that the book stirred up within you.

You could then try to resolve their foundation by getting to the root cause of the attachment.

For example, if you recently got out of a bad relationship, a romantic novel could insight in you feelings of being lonely because you identified with the notion of finding your soul mate and falling in love with them.

Read something different

Another great way to get over a book is to jump into another book. It’s easy to feel like re-reading a book you just read and this only reinforces the obsession you have with it, its therefore wise to jump into another book and focus on that one till it’s done.

This can help you separate yourself and allow your mind to fall in love with something else.

This leads me to my next point.

Follow the author

Half the time we fall in love with the author and the only way to rid ourselves of the obsession of that one book is to read something else by the author. Of all tactics I’ve come across about getting over a book, reading something else by the author is by far the most effective.

For example, this one time I read a book by Dan Brown called origins and I got attached to the book at the time. What I didn’t realize is that the rest of Dan Brown’s catalogue is just as good as that book. Once I read something else by him I was able to get over the initial book I got hooked on.


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